Marriage is perhaps not everyone’s cup of tea. Given that you need a lot of things in the mix besides love. That’s what Matthew Stafford’s wife, Kelly Stafford thinks! And of course, who could be a better advisor than her or the people who have crossed a decade of married life? Well, just recently, the YouTuber shared an incident where she and the quarterback teased a couple who were sitting beside them on their first date at a restaurant.
Sharing their conversation online, Matthew Stafford’s wife informed her audience that the woman ordered a simple drink on the date. However, the man who was with her ordered a cocktail. Now, nothing was wrong with that until the drinks showed up. The cocktail was pink, fruity, and flashy. But Kelly praised the man for chugging the drink with confidence and no hesitation. This incident, as well as her recent marriage anniversary event, compelled her to talk about love life and marriage in her podcast, The Morning After.
Matthew Stafford’s partner dropped a list of five harsh truths that come in marriage of any couple. This Instagram post featured: “I’m a psychologist who studies couples – 5 ‘hard truths’ about marriage most people learn too late in life,” via Mark Travers., PhD. Those are:
1. Love alone isn’t enough to hold a marriage together.
2. You’re going to fight … a lot.
3. Your partner won’t and can’t meet all of your needs.
4. Without constant maintenance, your marriage will crumble.
5. You are both going to change individually.
Explaining more about these, Matthew Stafford’s wife read out the first point in the beginning and said, “It says what truly sustains a marriage is commitment, effort, and the willingness to adapt. The adapting, I mean the example, having kids, somebody has to be the caregiver. And maybe give up their job, their career, maybe what they’ve dreamed of doing. Because if one person just gives up everything, and the other person doesn’t really recognize it, or doesn’t even say thank you, or whatnot. I think there’s resentment.”
Well, Kelly Stafford kept it real. She opened up on the next pointers about the hard truths of marriage. First, she brought in that in marriages, you’re going to fight. A lot more than you expect. And not just random arguments, but ones that actually come from pain. Hurt feelings usually start those big, deep talks. And if you want those talks to mean something, you need to make your partner feel safe, like they can open up without feeling judged.
Then comes the next truth. Your partner isn’t going to meet all your needs. They just can’t. Matthew Stafford’s wife shared how, when she moved to Michigan, she expected her husband to be her everything – best friend, comfort, happiness. But he told her straight: You have to be happy with yourself first. That hit her. Because real love also means keeping your own goals, your own space so the relationship doesn’t feel like it’s closing in on you. Similarly, another big one? Marriage takes work. Constant work. People think love is enough, but it’s not. Life throws stuff at you: kids, jobs, money, stress. Suddenly, your relationship drops to the bottom of the list. But as Kelly put it – just like a car, if you don’t keep checking in and maintaining it, it breaks down. Relationships can also die if not maintained from both sides.
Hence, Matthew Stafford’s partner expressed to her fans that you’re not marrying someone who’ll stay the same forever. The person at 25 might be totally different by 45. Priorities shift. Life happens. The strongest couples are the ones who roll with those changes. Who grow together, not apart. Just like Kelly and her QB husband, who have been through college, the NFL, moving nonstop, injury, even a brain tumor. It’s a lot. It’s exhausting. But that’s marriage. Raw, real, and full of growth. Kelly urged couples to be together in any situation – because that’s what a happy forever marriage is! Indeed, Kelly knows it better, as she recently celebrated her 10th year of togetherness.
Kelly has a sweet surprise for hubby Matthew Stafford!
Matthew Stafford’s wife, Kelly Stafford, kept it raw and real when she discussed her married life with the Los Angeles Rams quarterback. On Friday, the couple celebrated their 10th Anniversary with some pictures together. Dropping the same on her Instagram post, Kelly wrote, “10 years in and my heart feels so full. Couldn’t imagine loving you more, but I know over the next decade, that’s exactly what’s gonna happen. Happy anniversary John Matthew Stafford (red heart emoji).”
Before tying the knot in 2015, life was simple for both. Speaking about the same on her podcast, she expressed, “[before marriage] you put yourself first all the time. Now all of a sudden, you’re putting someone else first. Two, then there’s kids involved. It just becomes tougher and tougher with the more things thrown your way….… I will say, there has been so many ups and downs in our marriage.”
Along with this, Matthew Stafford’s love shared how their first year wasn’t easy – it hit hard, even though nothing really changed on the outside. Living together felt normal, but then came IVF and the painful road of infertility. That was their first real test as a couple. She even said, “Marriage is f—— hard.” But together, they made it through it all.
From college sweethearts – she, the cheerleader, and he, the quarterback – to parents of four daughters now, their journey’s been anything but smooth. But through the ups and downs, one thing’s clear: they’ve fought for each other every step of the way. And that’s how a healthy marriage goes!
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